WEDNESDAY WISDOM: Coronavirus Stay-Cation - It's a Love/Hate Thing

CORONAVIRUS STAY-CATION:  It's a Love/Hate

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"Home is a shelter from storms - all sorts of storms."  William J. Bennett 

      

 

    

Because law firms are considered "essential businesses" under the Florida stay-at-home rules, my company, Will & Trust Express, is allowed to remain open in the current environment. Up until last Thursday, we were busy seeing clients and preparing wills, trusts, and related documents for concerned residents of Central Florida.

At the office, we took extensive precautions to protect our clients and ourselves. We disinfected the conference room and waiting area between each client meeting; we scrubbed our hands several times a day; we generously offered masks and hand sanitizer; we used brand-new pens each time we signed documents and let the clients keep them; and we wiped down client estate planning binders before they were delivered.

But my wife and children were nevertheless concerned for my welfare. They know I have a weakened respiratory system due to double open-chest lung surgeries I had 20 years ago. They were also afraid I might bring the virus home to my wife and then we would both be in "deep doo-doo," as George H. W. Bush used to say.

Wishing to be more cautious, I tried working "virtually." However, I found the results largely unfulfilling and unsatisfactory, at least for me. I much prefer person-to-person interaction, which gives greater opportunity to share stories and experiences back and forth, to read body language and facial expressions, and to observe more nuanced eye-to-eye contact. Trying to communicate with another human being via a computer screen is not the same as face to face. The more I tried it, the more it felt like I was morphing into Legal Zoom or some other faceless, soulless online provider. Yech! Not for me!

So, I decided to finish the cases already in progress and then close the office for a few weeks until things simmer down a bit. I would take a vacation of sorts, just to be on the safe side. But since there was nowhere to go, it would be a "stay-cation."

Some of you have been on this journey for quite some time already, but I'm just starting. This is new territory for me. How are you dealing with your own coronavirus stay-cation? If anybody has some advice on this issue, I'm all ears.

I have two fears about the upcoming weeks. The first is that I may hate this period of forced inactivity. Anyone who knows me knows that not working is not in my nature. What if I can't find useful ways to use this extra time? What if this idleness drives me crazy? What if I actually have to start tackling some of those honey-do projects I've long avoided?

My second fear, on the other hand, is that I may discover that I love this taste of retirement. Once having tasted freedom, I might start figuring out how to make not working permanent. I have always planned to work until I'm 70, but what if it feels so good to not go to work that I lower my sights a little bit? What if waking up whenever I feel like it and spending the day doing interesting things with my wife around the house is lots more fun than driving into work every day? What then?

It's still too early to tell how this personal dilemma will play out for me, but I'm optimistic about the future.

I'm hopeful that when we open our doors again at Will & Trust Express, I'll have a deeper appreciation for the satisfying nature of the meaningful work I get to do. I'm hopeful that many people in this area will realize that they need to complete their own will and trust planning.

And I'm confident that plenty of folks will want to sit down with me face to face and chat thoughtfully about their future plans. I'm optimistic that many of my neighbors will want to discuss how they can draw upon my experience and training to help them enjoy greater peace of mind in a world that's full of uncertainty.

These are challenging times, but I believe we'll get through this and life will be better on the other side.

WEDNESDAY WISDOM: Hanging Together by "Hanging" Separately

HANGING TOGETHER BY "HANGING" SEPARATELY 

"We must all hang together or, most assuredly, we shall all hang separately."  Benjamin Franklin  

      

    

 

In the dark and tenuous days of the Revolutionary War, when a haphazard assortment of American colonists had the audacity to declare themselves independent from the most powerful nation on earth, the well-spoken Benjamin Franklin expressed the absolute imperative that the patriots stand united. He declared:

"We must all hang together or, most assuredly, we shall all hang separately."

He meant that the signers of the Declaration of Independence, as well as colonists in general, had to help and support each other or they were doomed. The quote encapsulates the urgency and gravity of the situation in that summer of 1776. Unity was essential to achieving victory in the Revolutionary War. Franklin knew they were committing treason by signing the Declaration. The penalty for treason was hanging, and thus they could literally all die if they did not work together.

Although not nearly as foreboding as in 1776, our situation today is deadly serious. Our country faces another grave crisis. Our collective well-being hangs in the balance, and once again, the imperative of standing united is essential. With no small amount of irony, the requirement of hanging together means that we all must hang [out] separately, that we maintain our physical distance so as to not further spread this terrible disease.

These restrictions in many cases constitute a huge sacrifice. Many businesses, especially small businesses, will likely be wiped out. Many workers will lose their jobs or go many weeks without paychecks. Many cherished social occasions, large and small, will vanish. Indeed, my daughter Elisabeth's wedding to her dear Ray was scheduled for this upcoming Saturday with a hundred family, friends, and special guests. They were forced to cancel their large celebration and instead opted for a private ceremony on the back porch of their new home. They hope to have a festive celebration in the future when things settle down.

In these trying times, I find solace and understanding in the viewpoint of Dr. Lindsay Jernigan.

Try this perspective shift. Instead of seeing "social distancing" and travel bans as panic, try seeing them as acts of mass cooperation intended to protect the collective whole. This plan is not about individuals going into hiding. It's a global deep breath - - - an agreement between humans around the planet to be still. Be still, in hopes that the biggest wave can pass without engulfing too many of the vulnerable amongst us.

Here's a simple yet powerful picture.

One last thought: I find the term "social distancing" to be ill-chosen. I think a better term is "physical distancing" - keeping apart physically while doing as much as we can to maintain and even enhance our social connections. Instead of lamenting the many ways we cannot be physically close, we should be more proactive in using the connective tools at our disposal to be as socially and emotionally close as possible. Let's exercise the many options we have in today's digitally-laced world to stay in touch with each other. Now more than ever, we need to fill the world with love, in every way we can.

We must hang together and bind ourselves together, even while we "hang out" separately.

WEDNESDAY WISDOM: Time for Nature

TIME FOR NATURE

"Those who contemplate the beauty of the earth find reserves of strength that will endure as long as life lasts."  Rachel Carson   

    

    

     

I recently spent the day kayaking the headwaters of the Wekiva River with my niece, Dixie Farnsworth Jamison. Dixie is a professor of nursing in Rexburg, Idaho, and she's smart, thoughtful, interesting, and observant. It was wonderful spending time with her, enjoying some great conversation, and spotting an amazing array of animals on the river.

But perhaps the best part was simply being there - basking in the ideal weather, savoring the unhurried and nourishing environment, and absorbing the beauty and energy of this unspoiled setting. What John Muir said about being in nature is true: "Everybody needs beauty as well as bread, places to play in and pray in, where nature may heal and give strength to body and soul."

I'm thankful for Dixie's decision to stay over a few days after her professional conference. I'm even more grateful for her encouragement that I take off work for a day and show her why kayaking down this river is one of our family's favorite things to do in Central Florida. It never disappoints.

It turns out that I truly needed this little adventure. I had allowed the busy-ness of life to get in the way of being in nature. I had forgotten the wise words of author Katrina Mayer: "Time spent amongst trees is never wasted."  

I am newly resolved to find time - no, change that to MAKE TIME - on a consistent basis to get into the woods and discover anew the beauty God built into this amazing planet we live on. I WILL, as Thoreau counseled, "live in each season as it passes; breathe the air, drink the drink, taste the fruit, and resign [my]self to the influence of the earth."

Thanks again, Dixie. Here are some unforgettable sights from that day on the river.