Wednesday, April 15, 2020

WEDNESDAY WISDOM: Coronavirus Stay-Cation - It's a Love/Hate Thing


"Home is a shelter from storms - all sorts of storms."  William J. Bennett 

Because law firms are considered "essential businesses" under the Florida stay-at-home rules, my company, Will & Trust Express, is allowed to remain open in the current environment. Up until last Thursday, we were busy seeing clients and preparing wills, trusts, and related documents for concerned residents of Central Florida.

At the office, we took extensive precautions to protect our clients and ourselves. We disinfected the conference room and waiting area between each client meeting; we scrubbed our hands several times a day; we generously offered masks and hand sanitizer; we used brand-new pens each time we signed documents and let the clients keep them; and we wiped down client estate planning binders before they were delivered.

But my wife and children were nevertheless concerned for my welfare. They know I have a weakened respiratory system due to double open-chest lung surgeries I had 20 years ago. They were also afraid I might bring the virus home to my wife and then we would both be in "deep doo-doo," as George H. W. Bush used to say.

Wishing to be more cautious, I tried working "virtually." However, I found the results largely unfulfilling and unsatisfactory, at least for me. I much prefer person-to-person interaction, which gives greater opportunity to share stories and experiences back and forth, to read body language and facial expressions, and to observe more nuanced eye-to-eye contact. Trying to communicate with another human being via a computer screen is not the same as face to face. The more I tried it, the more it felt like I was morphing into Legal Zoom or some other faceless, soulless online provider. Yech! Not for me!

So, I decided to finish the cases already in progress and then close the office for a few weeks until things simmer down a bit. I would take a vacation of sorts, just to be on the safe side. But since there was nowhere to go, it would be a "stay-cation."

Some of you have been on this journey for quite some time already, but I'm just starting. This is new territory for me. How are you dealing with your own coronavirus stay-cation? If anybody has some advice on this issue, I'm all ears.

I have two fears about the upcoming weeks. The first is that I may hate this period of forced inactivity. Anyone who knows me knows that not working is not in my nature. What if I can't find useful ways to use this extra time? What if this idleness drives me crazy? What if I actually have to start tackling some of those honey-do projects I've long avoided?

My second fear, on the other hand, is that I may discover that I love this taste of retirement. Once having tasted freedom, I might start figuring out how to make not working permanent. I have always planned to work until I'm 70, but what if it feels so good to not go to work that I lower my sights a little bit? What if waking up whenever I feel like it and spending the day doing interesting things with my wife around the house is lots more fun than driving into work every day? What then?

It's still too early to tell how this personal dilemma will play out for me, but I'm optimistic about the future.

I'm hopeful that when we open our doors again at Will & Trust Express, I'll have a deeper appreciation for the satisfying nature of the meaningful work I get to do. I'm hopeful that many people in this area will realize that they need to complete their own will and trust planning.

And I'm confident that plenty of folks will want to sit down with me face to face and chat thoughtfully about their future plans. I'm optimistic that many of my neighbors will want to discuss how they can draw upon my experience and training to help them enjoy greater peace of mind in a world that's full of uncertainty.

These are challenging times, but I believe we'll get through this and life will be better on the other side.

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